You Get What You Believe

What is it you’ve been trying to create in your life?  A loving relationship?  A thinner, healthier body?  A new job or career?  Your own business?  More income?  Or do you simply want to perform at a higher level in all areas of your life?

Have you been working hard, perhaps even struggling, to achieve these things, but it seems you should be getting better results for all of the effort you put forth?

Take a look at your beliefs.  You can be taking massive action, but if your beliefs are not compatible with your goals, you will find ways to hold the things you desire away from you.

One common belief that holds people back is “I don’t deserve to have what I want.”  I have actually heard clients admit they believe they need to be more successful in their careers before they can find love.  Translate to “I have to reach a certain level of success in my career and then I will deserve love.”

In her book, Write It Down, Make It Happen, Henriette Anne Klauser tells about a woman who has been searching for love for years and actually writing letters to her future mate.  The woman discovers, through her writing, that she has been observing the problems her friends were having in their relationships and believes that the same problems will befall her if she finds love.

Another belief that holds many back is “I can’t (insert whatever).”  “I can’t perform at the level I desire.  I can’t have the income I want.  I can’t get my home, office, and finances in order.  ADD will always hold me back.”

These kinds of beliefs are not facts the way gravity is a fact.  They are things you have been saying to yourself for so long that they have taken on the appearance of truth, but they can be changed, and your life will change when you change your beliefs.

First, become aware of your beliefs by listening closely to the things you are saying to yourself inside your head.  If you’re putting yourself down a lot, there’s a good chance you believe you are undeserving.  Change that thought to “I deserve to have all of the good things life has to offer.”  Repeat it enough times with conviction and it will become your truth.  You have just taken the first, and possibly the most difficult, step on the path to achieving what you want.